Parent Ministry

Killing Wolves. The Things that Pull Families Away.

In Part 1 I looked at the frustration we have as youth ministers when we watch families drift away and we feel helpless to do anything about it.
  Christian/Church parents are removing their families from the safety found connected in a local church and exposing their family to the wolves who simply want to devour their lives. Who are you to judge? I’m not judging. I’ve been working with students and their families for 26 years, I have learned what…

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Parenting

Food for the Wolves.

I ran into a parent this morning that I haven’t seen at church in a very long time. His family came for a while, then became hit and miss, then missing all together. Their child of youth group age never really came to youth group. I let the parent know that their family was greatly missed at church.
The dad then began to list the reason why they are missing. The main reason is the dad is working sun up to…

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Church, Ministry

System and Culture

All churches, especially those churches that have been around for any length of time, have a certain culture, that culture is often times tied deeply with the church’s traditions.
Years and years of letting the paid professional minister do much of the work in the church became the culture or the norm in most churches. Visit the sick? That’s what we hired him for. Teach the class? That’s what we hired him for. Teach the children? That’s what we hired her…

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Student Ministry

Refuel Retreat

I got Refueled! I had a great time of retreat last week in Destin Florida with LeaderTreks at their Refuel Retreat. This was my third Refuel Retreat and each time I have attended a Refuel I have learned so much and returned back home and to the church refueled and ready to go. 

What did I get out of Refuel?
 
Rest. I was able to spend some extra time simply resting without having responsibility on me other than learning. I’ll…

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Discipleship

The Umbrella of Discipleship

Parents don’t disciple their child because the parents were not discipled by their parents. There was a point in Christianity when parents no longer taught their children how to live out the Christian life and be a follower of Christ and took that responsibility and handed it off to the church. Sunday School teachers, youth pastors, the parenting role discipling their child was relinquished to the church. Over the many years this idea of “I disciple my child” has almost…

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Discipleship

Discipleship Strategy in a Wireless World

This post is a continuation of a post that began here Part 1, Part 2. If youth group is no longer meeting a social need we need to consider this question: “Can we even compete to technology when it comes to the social need?” We used to be able to say “Youth group is going to be epic this Wednesday so come and bring a friend.” All because we were going to serve a 30 foot banana split and play…

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student ministry

Changing how we do what we do

Part 2 of 3 part series.  You can find part 1 HERE In my last blog post I wrote about the changes in our kids lives due to the arrival of the iPhone in 2007. I posed the thought that student ministry isn’t like it used to be and doing student ministry the old way is not going to work with this and future generations. I’m not saying these things to be Negative Ned. I’m saying these things because we…

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Discipleship

Youth Group No Longer Fills the Social Need

Part 1 of 3. I remember when I was in jr. high I lived for our youth group’s weekend events. I would go to every possible one. Roller skating? I was in. Camping? I was in. Lock Ins? I was in. 
Every Wednesday night I would go to youth group. I did this all the way through my high school years until I graduated. I loved the fun that youth group brought. I loved just hanging out with my friends…

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discipleship

The Relationship Reminder

Yesterday I was reminded about the key to student ministry. The key is relationships. 
One of our volunteers leads a small group of middle school girls and she also has two young ladies from the group she is personally in discipling. She has invested time, not just on Sunday evenings at youth but also outside of our youth group time. We had our church picnic yesterday and this volunteer came to me with one of the young girls she is…

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Parenting

Practical Ways to Disciple Your Kid

7 Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. 8 Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. 9 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6 God’s Word and His expectations should be the fabric of our everyday lives woven throughout our home. A…

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